Alternatively titled: Why do you write so many damn lists all the time?
Grace in Small Things started when Jackie started posting a list once a week. Five small things from her week that made her smile; simple really. She in turn got the idea from someone else but Jackie no longer blogs and I’ve forgotten who her original inspiration was, oops.
It was nice to see a little positive message popping up every week, and interesting to see just how small some of her items were. I’ve made no secret of the fact that I’ve had battles with depression in the past – it happens to so many people and I had a lot of trouble when I was at university and after with maintaining a sense of calm, purpose and happiness. Even when things were stable or good in my life I struggled with keeping myself on an even keel emotionally, it was fairly exhausting and made me feel worse – a self perpetuated circle of shame and loathing. Fun!
I started writing my own Grace in Small Things lists to help myself focus on the good. I wanted to become less of a negative person, and starting on something small was less intimidating than pretending I was strong enough to just change my personality overnight. (Real talk: can you do that? If you can please teach me how).
I’ve written almost 300 items on my list (so far!) and I like it so much that Q and I made it into a Sunday morning routine. I make him a cup of tea and we each write down 3 small things that we found grace in that week. The best part of this whole thing for me? I now notice these things all the time. Everywhere, no matter what I’m doing there’s always something small that’s making me smile.
So! There you go. I write lists all the damn time because it helped me with my depression and it makes me a sunnier person* :)
I’d honestly recommend it to everyone – even if you don’t want to write them publicly, just write them. It really, really does help to put things in perspective and that’s never a bad thing – right?
*I cannot imagine how many of my friends are laughing their asses off at that but trust me, I was much worse before ;)